Premarital Counseling Session 1

For our wedding, Gage & I had originally planned to have my papaw marry us as he is a preacher and is able to do so. I thought it was a good idea-he was cool with it, however-it didn't feel right. 

Typically, in a wedding, the bride's father give her away-

well...that's not really what I wanted. 

My dad and I are on good terms-but he doesn't really have much to do with me. 

To me-my dad is like my mailman. We see each other, we have small talk if the need arises-but...

what bride wants their mailman to give her away at her wedding? 

#awkward

If I have ever considered anyone to be a father figure-it would be my papaw.

So-I wanted him to give me away.

& he will. 

With that decision made-it left us preacherless for our wedding.

I mean, my papaw could give me away and be my preacher but it would be weird. Like: 

Papaw: "Who gives Kiersten away? *turns around* I do. *turns back around*"

Gage & I both go to the same church-which we are happy with and comfortable with our preacher-why not have him marry us? 

So we ask him! & he said yes.

BUT: we didn't really 'read the fineprint' (aka: we didn't know what we were getting into)

in which after he confirmed he would marry us-he also informed us that he required 8 weeks of 

premarital counseling. 

Neither of us had ever been through counseling and didn't know what to expect. 

At first I thought, 'he's going to try to change our mind and decision to marry so young...'

& Gage even said, "so-he's going to play with our mind?"

which-we were both wrong. 

We went to our first session of counseling

We didn't so much as Drew (our preacher) was basically giving us an idea (or warning) of what to expect.

We would be meeting maybe twice a month-give or take, and had to complete and online 'inventory'/ questionnaire about our self and our spouse before our next session

-but-we couldn't share answers or discuss the questions with eachother.

-It was harder than I thought.

Some of the questions were intense, made me blush, made me emotional, and made me think. 

I'm unsure of what the future sessions hold-

but in my heart-I know this is the right thing to do.